Psychologist Alexander Shakhov said that women themselves make a choice to be an unhappy victim and how to help such a person, Dni.ru reports.
He noted that a woman who is emotionally traumatized as a result of a bad experience in building relationships with men is not looking for a solution to the problem, but for empathy. In addition, she wants her interlocutors to share her resentment towards the "scoundrels".
Shakhov also believes that a woman often chooses an environment for herself, which ultimately acts badly towards her.
"The problem is that if a person chooses to live in a trash heap, then he meets only homeless people, because they belong there. If a woman is surrounded exclusively by male scoundrels, then the question arises: why did she choose such an environment?"
- said Shakhov.
He added that in the position of a victim, a woman is looking for a person who will become her "savior." This means that he will have to advise and teach her, as well as deal with her problems.
"The victim is able to deal with her problems herself, but she does not want to do this. But she wants pity, which she takes for love. Favorite phrase of the victim:" Yes, but ",
- stressed Shakhov.
As an effective means, he proposes to ridicule the excuses used by the "victim", since such argumentation is difficult to consider adequate. This will help the "victim" understand the absurdity of their words and take responsibility for their lives.